I am a strong believer in the idea that you don’t really know somebody until you travel with them. While an international plane trip will really open your eyes to your companion’s whims, even a little road trip can shed some light on the type of person you are with and what habits they have that may drive you nuts.
Which is why I always think its a good idea to take a trip with a guy or gal before you get super serious with them. Maybe things will go well and you’ll find that you work well as a team on the trip. But maybe he can’t stand a minute of silence in the car, and you just want a moment of peace. Or maybe she insists on bringing half of her life’s possessions on trips and it affects what you can do on the trip. Not to mention the baggage fees…yikes.
So here are some things that you might want to look for when you travel with a significant other that may indicate if you’re truly compatible or not. Also, keep in mind that one bad road trip together doesn’t mean the relationship is doomed as a shroom’, but if the idea of doing another trip with him or her makes you see red or quake in your boots, it may be time to read the signs and take the first exit.
Firstly, can you even plan a trip together without arguing constantly or becoming disgruntled?
If you have problems choosing a hotel together, deciding how much the budget should be, or even where you want to go, then you have to ask yourself why that is. If you can’t agree on budgeting, that may be an indication that your ways of handling money are completely different. It’s also important to be able to make compromises, and not let yourself stew if you don’t get exactly what you want.
Can you split expenses, knowing that things may not always turn out equal?
In an ideal world, everything would be equal and fine. But on trips with two or more people, it’s hard to keep expenses equally divided. One of you might want to eat more food than the other, maybe somebody wants to do an additional excursion that the other isn’t too pumped about or doesn’t want to spend the cash.
Are you comfortable sitting in silence? Sharing living spaces for a little bit? Being all up in each other’s business on a small plane with absolutely no leg room?
When you travel, there’s going to be uncomfortable times. You may be squished together on a plane or in a car for hours, with nothing but the open road, the radio and the human next to you. And let me tell you, it’s going to be a long-ass, awkward trip if you can’t sit in silence amicably. You can’t talk the entire time, you just can’t.
Are your levels of adventurous spirit at least somewhat equal?
This may sound silly, but you’re not going to have fun if you want to live it up and spend the day doing activities, and your partner only wants to stay at the hotel and watch Law and Order. This goes back to compromise, and this isn’t to say you can’t enjoy doing your own thing from time to time. But if you can never seem to get on the same page on how much activities to do, it may be a sign you’re just not that compatible.
At the end of the day, traveling with your significant other can be the ultimate bonding experience, and there’s no beating that feeling of knowing you work well as a team. (That’s the stuff marriages are made of) But sooner or later, your relationship will be tested, and road trips or vacations can be a great testing ground for where things are headed.